by Naseem Mariam
Success is not a one-time act. You need to repeat one success with a
second; and the second with a third … life moves forward and you need
the next success to satisfy your growing expectations and desires.
You need to know how to make Success a habit.
“Success is the progressive realization of a worthy ideal.”
~ Earl Nightingale
Therefore, who succeeds? The only person who succeeds is the person
who is progressively realizing a worthy ideal. The person who says,
“I’m going to become this”… & then begins to work toward becoming it.
Here are 8 steps to help you realize success as often as you want:
1. See yourself, as you want to be 10 years, 5 years from now.
Describe how you will be at end of each year for next 5 years.
This is long-range planning and need not be done too often. Once a
year is adequate. Frequently looking at and imagining the long-range
future has a tendency to discourage small incremental efforts in the
The key is to start with a 10-year vision; then the 5-year and work
back towards success spot for each year for next 5 years. From the
start fix whether you are talking and describing the beginning or end
of the year.
Do not mix the 2. If you fix on beginning as your time reference, it
should remain beginning for checking status for all the time-slots:
day / week / month / year.
Will you evaluate, analyze, consolidate and visualize at the
beginning of the day / week / month / year or at the end? Decide this
upfront and then stick to it.
I personally prefer to do it at the end so that I can start the next
time-slot well prepared but everyone has his or her preferences.
Select the one that you tune to but be consistent in all time-slots.
2. Write a description of the person you want to become by
calendar year end: the money, health & relationships you
want to have – Act the part — You are that person!
Here I want you to work from a feeling of abundance. I would like you
to read & forget about the one paragraph: because if you remember
what you should not do you may find yourself doing what you should
not do … merely because you are focusing on not doing it!
Often you are told to evaluate where you are and then describe where
you want to be … and plan how to get where you want to be. This
exercise unfortunately focuses on your lack of something: it
reinforces scarcity and the gap discourages you from even taking the
first step forward. Read the article “How to Conquer Fear of
Success”. Now forget about this paragraph (after you read the
What you should do is: forget about where you are today. Just
describe where you want to be. Make it as wild and ambitious as
possible. Think of great people who did just such ‘impossible’
things. Feel that you have already reached your goals: in the areas
of money, health and relationships.
Behave, think, feel and act today in the same way that you can see
yourself after having accomplished your goals. To learn what makes
you tick and how you can gain the skills required to make success
a habit, read the article “How to Align Your Goals for Success” and
the ebook “Project Serenity – How to gain happiness and peace”
3. Establish definite goals – money, health, relationships
Experience the sensation of these goals accomplished.
Whenever you sit down to define your goals remember to work from an
abundance mentality. Go ahead stand at the place where you want to
be, and define what you have accomplished.
These are the goals that you must plan for now in the present. This
exercise will take a lot of time and practice because from childhood
our minds have been tuned to work from a scarcity mind-set. Remember
your own past accomplishments, remember great men who did
‘impossible’ tasks, history repeats itself: all you need is faith and
confidence that you too can repeat history.
Think positive thoughts about yourself. Take total responsibility for
your current position. It was your reaction and responses to
circumstances that have placed you were you currently are. Learn to
change your attitude if need be. Read the article “3 Ways to Help
Yourself Towards Success” and receive the free email course “Success
comes from Within” with a mail to firstname.lastname@example.org
4. Look back … from the vantage spot of goals reached.
What have you done to reach that point?
List these activities. Do them.
Who has helped you reach this point?
Request their support. Do as they say.
It is a good idea to prioritize the list of activities and have no
more than 3 that are mandatory for the day. In the beginning, define
just ONE mandatory activity and complete it. Then move onto 2 and
finally 3. In a single day, never ever plan to complete more than 3
Classify the activities into 4 Quadrants: Simplicity and Impact.
Low Simplicity (i.e. complex, difficult, time-consuming) and Low
Impact is Quadrant 1; High Simplicity and Low Impact is Quadrant 2;
Low Simplicity and High Impact is Quadrant 3; High Simplicity and
High Impact is Quadrant 4.
When you assign priorities, ensure that you give higher priority to
Quadrant 4 activities and least to Quadrant 1 activities. Quadrant 2
and 3 you can categorize as you wish: I would prefer to complete the
simple activities and get the benefit of even the low impact early
on; therefore I would prefer Quadrant 2 to Quadrant 3 any day. But
there is not much to prioritize between Quadrants 2 and 3 really.
While planning for Career Success, here are some tools that will help
you create your list of activities: “7 Ways to Reach Success At Any
Stage of Your Career”
5. Every day evaluate status, praise yourself; go back to step 4
Planning activities even in the minutest details does not guarantee
success. What helps you succeed is keeping track of progress,
anticipating possible roadblocks, mitigating them, facing issues head
on, and taking necessary corrective actions.
You should re-plan every day. Whatever may be the state of your
activities, you should praise yourself for at least ONE
accomplishment of the day, however small it may be.
6. Every week analyze progress, reward yourself; go back to step 3
The key to praises and rewards is to maintain a Journal of the
reasons why you praised yourself daily, why you rewarded yourself
Go through this list and I am sure you will be able to justify the
celebration recommended in the next step.
As human beings we do have our ups and downs. It is how fast and how
well we recover from our downs that determines how fast we progress
during our next up cycle. The Journal helps remind us of how good,
how great, how unique we are and gets us through the next down phase
with greater energy than before.
7. Every month consolidate, celebrate; go back to step 2
Accomplishments have a funny way of getting buried under the debris
of day-to-day blunders, mishaps and existences. Celebrate with your
support team, your near and dear ones.
The praises you received from others could be passed onto your
support team for reinforcements. The rewards that you give yourself
can also be shared with those who wish you well. However, it does not
matter if you sometimes enjoy praises and rewards with yourself.
However when it comes to celebration time, it is highly recommended
that you gather your support team and friends too. This has the added
advantage that you recognize publicly those who have supported and
helped you. Your support team meets each other and gels together …
and this will help them help you better in the future.
8. Every year take a vacation, visualize; go back to step 1
Often you see things more clearly when you take one step away from
the situation. You need to sharpen your axe. You need to get your
reinforcements in place.
A vacation away from the nitty-gritty of your goals, your list of
activities and your accomplishments is sure to rejuvenate you. Do
give yourself a holiday at least once a year for at least 3
consecutive days, preferably a week.
You could do the visualization on the last lap of your vacation after
you have refreshed yourself. Remember that on your return from
vacation, you should complete your visualization BEFORE you start any
other activity … even checking your mails can wait … especially
checking your mails.
Naseem Mariam is the editor of “Management that Soars” eNewsletter & author of “Project Serenity – How to gain happiness and peace”. Her writings draw life from her 18 years experience as software Project Manager. Let her guide you towards Faster All Round Success and a Stress Free, Joyous Life.